A 60-minute session in which we will get to know each other, we will also do an anamnesis, and you will describe your goals and objectives of Coaching. If we both agree that we are the Coach you are looking for, we will develop the Coaching plan to apply.Free Consultation
A 60-minute session in which we will get to know each other, we will also do an anamnesis, and you will describe your goals and objectives of Coaching and Psychogenealogy. If we both agree that we are the Coach you are looking for, we will develop the Coaching plan to apply.
What is our style?
Simple to explain, I am convinced that the client is the one who knows inside what affects him and what helps him only then it is necessary to put it in context and the light of reason.
Therefore we focus on the Coaching or advisory system. By following the steps that I summarise below, we expose and recognise the resources that you can use and those that you should avoid achieving a mental state appropriate to your concerns, desires and goals.
In the first session, which is usually free, I explain to the client that it is my coaching system, I present myself professionally and my expertise and listen to their concerns, goals and desires. If we both agree, I prepare a coaching plan to give to you to develop it together in the next session.
The sessions are developed without judging, without imposing theories, procedures or the like. They are optimistic and cordial conversation and exercises.
What does a life coach do?
The Life Coach encourages and advises clients on a variety of professional and personal matters. Life coaching is not about giving therapy or diagnosing ailments, although the Coach should be prepared to identify and refer the client to a Clinical Psychologist or a Psychiatrist if the problem requires it. A coach supports and guides you to make the most of your specific career projects, personal goals, and transitions by analysing your current situation, identifying limiting beliefs and other potential challenges and obstacles you face, and devising a personalised action plan designed to help you achieve results. Specific in your life.
Carl Rogers (psychologist, 1902-1987) believed that each person could achieve their goals and desires in life. Following the main assumptions of Abraham Maslow, Rogers (1959) added that for a person to “grow”, they need an environment that provides them with authenticity (openness and self-disclosure), acceptance (being seen with unconditional positive respect), and empathy (being heard and understood). The relationship between a client and their lifestyle coach is a creative partnership that seeks to:
– Identify, clarify, and create a vision of what the client wants.
– Modify the objectives as necessary.
– Promote self-discovery and customer growth.
– Nurture and evoke strategies and an action plan based on what best suits the client’s goals, personality and vision.
– Promote customer responsibility to increase productivity.
THE COACHING PROCESS
The first step will be to clarify exactly what you want.
This is important. John Whitmore (1992) argues that people often begin by describing what is feasible before discussing what they want or outlining goals. Instead of thinking of inspiring and creative plans that really motivate you, you’re likely to fall short with limited, opposing goals.
Therefore, most coaches will start by calibrating their values using some form of training evaluation. They will probably also measure long-term goals and dreams. And they will continue to review them as they train together.
Whitmore explains that the ultimate goals that come to mind during this process are an inspiration. Often they are not under our control because there are many overlapping systems and fields of influence that come into play. This is why we need to create and focus on performance goals.
Coaching is about helping you get from where you are to where you want to be. Gallwey explained how an objective point of view is critical to dominating our own internal opponent. To help you, your coach will ask you questions that call for answers that are specific and descriptive, instead of general and judgmental.
O’Connor and Lages plot the characteristics of the coaching questions on the following scale:
O’Connor and Lages’ Specific-Descriptive grid
Next, you and your coach will begin to review all available resources, options, and courses of action that could help you achieve your goals.
During this stage, you will want to identify your resources. According to Grant and Greene, “Resources can be personal experiences, mentors, influencers in your life, teachers, books, paintings, music.” Resources are where we draw our strength and inspiration. They focus on and help us achieve our goals.
After calculating your resources and listing possible courses of action, you will need to critically analyse your options to account for each possible period of action’s costs and benefits.
The next step is to design a plan that takes you from where you are now to where you want to be in the future. It will determine the steps to follow. As O’Connor and Lages say, “it will turn a discussion into a decision.”
In this plan, you will discover:
– What are you going to do and when are you going to do it?
– What kinds of obstacles will be in your way and what support you need.
– How this action will contribute to achieving your objective.
Your coach will also measure and measure your motivation and commitment to this action step.
Throughout the process, your coach will work to keep your motivation and commitment high.
Motivation always comes from within – your coach will work with you to tap into your source. As O’Connor and Lages write:
“Values are what is important to us; they are our deepest motivation.”
In addition to keeping you motivated, your coach will make sure you stay on track. It is easier to commit to an action plan than to follow it. By using a series of training tools, your coach can keep you on track.
Psychogenealogy is a technique that allows us to discover the invisible loyalties that are interfering with our goals and dreams. Because the loyalties are in the unconscious, the person does not know that blocks and challenges also come from their family tree.
When we add psychological and emotional aspects to the family tree, the invisible loyalties begin to surface into the conscious mind to be healed. It is a fascinating journey! We are born into a family with connections to our ancestors that are invisible. According to Jung, these connections are in the unconscious mind. In Psychogenealogy, we call these unconscious connections invisible loyalties. They can be positive and bring us blessings and resources that enhance our lives like humour, creativity and enthusiasm. They can also bring unresolved issues like sadness, relationship problems or debts.”
The concept was founded by Professor Carl Jung (Austria/Switzerland) who was the first person to recognize connections between the person and their ancestors beyond the typical family tree with names and dates in their genealogy.
Around 1960 Moreno (Austria) established the postulate of familial CO-CONSCIOUS and the CO-UNCONSCIOUS familial group, he was the first to insist on the complexity of family ties.
During the same period, Françoise Dolto & N. Abraham and their students established the complex problem of trans-generational transmission, non resolved conflicts, (hate, vengeance vendettas, feuds), of secrets, silenced words, premature deaths, and the choice of profession.
In 1967 Murray Bowen (USA) talked about the “Genogramme” in family therapy.
In 1978 Henri Collomb (France) presented the technique of the “Genosociogramme” in Nice that he had developed in Senegal in his work on the African Psycho Pathology.
Dr Anne Shutzenberger (France) continued to teach and develop the “Genosociogramme” mainly to help cancer patients discover, through working on their family tree, the roots of cancer that had invested them.
“If we heal an individual without considering the whole family, we will not accomplish much in therapy, which will often only be a temporary improvement…
The development of a person, his/her health, illness, and remission depend upon the way their family or society consider them. The family’s balance is also important for the development of the individuals, their health, their illness, and their relapse.”
By studying your ancestry you can free yourself from inherited patterns that are of no use to you.